First off I feel the need to point a few key facts about my sweet little Mini. Besides being my shining light when things seem dark she is currently 7years old and in the last portion of her first grade year. This sweet little kid has seen alot of not so great stuff in her short years but she is still one of the sweetest kids you will ever meet. This year Roo and I have started to notice little changes in her personality. It started last year when we found out I was having another baby. Though she was excited she began having some small issues with thinking that she would not be as loved. Once she got over some of the initial feelins she was all prepped to be a big sister only to have that taken away from. Though we still tell her how awesome a big sister she is After the death of Sophia we have all struggled to get back to something normal and she has slowly started to get back to her self. Of course this is were I stress that she is only 7 and she has more hormones in her tiny little system that I do at the age of....Well that's not really importan. So this past month she learned how to ride her bike all by herself (finally she has a place to do this) And she has began to show her personallity ever more to us. I'm not sure if we will be handle when she actually reaches her teenage years so With all that being said let me tell you what's going on in her world as of late.Recently Mini has been introduced to a bully. Though she has been teased a few times she has always been good natured about it. But this kid has come in and totally changed the way our kids have been behaving during school hours. Again they are first grade. After I was told a few things about the youngster we shall call the kid L.S.H. (if you don't know me you won't get it if you do then...) L.S.H. has said some pretty mean things to my little Mini but she has been handling it pretty well though I think it is safe to say my being present more around her school helps her to speak up a little more. Now today Mini jumps in the car and first I am told that she made everyone laugh. I'm told this by Mrs. Sweets (her teacher) Acording to Mrs. Sweets they could her another child being spoken to and Mini of course said "Wow she's hard core." Mrs. Sweets looks at Mini and asked if she thought she was being mean and Mini said "No but I wouldn't mess with her." After I got a good laugh out of this it was time to be on our way.
"Mini did you have a good day?"
"Yep, I'm green"
"Good and was L.S.H. nice to you? Did you ignore anything that was said?"
"Yeah, but Friday L.S.H. gave me a bow. Did I tell you?"
"Um, No."
"Well it wasn't his to give it belonged to another, but I didn't know it and I remembered that you said I couldn't bring anything else home that didn't belong to me so I didn't then today I asked the her if it was her and she said yea."
"Ok, so you gave it back?"
"Yes, well actually she snatched it from me. I don't think she knew that it was rude."
"Did you say anything to her? Did you tell her you were sorry and where you got it from?"
"No, I mean she was already mad so I think thats why she snatched it."
"Ok, why was she made?" (I would like to point out that this is really started to listen.)
"She was made because her BFF and her BF were playing with eachother."
"Wait.What?"
"Her BF didn't want to play with her instead he wanted to play with her BFF and they were ignoring her and she didn't like it so she snatched her bow, that I was giving back, our of my hand. And do you know she didn't say thank you." Mini was a little put out about this.
"Her BF, you mean boyfriend?"
Mini rolls her eyes, "Yes thats what I said her BF." at this point I am shaking head because I am so not ready for this stage. So I go to change the subject and say "So what did you learn today?"
and Mini goes off on another story. Needless today her world is very round and constantly movings. Sometimes she gets quiet and she talks to herself about Sophia and sometimes she laughs a joke that shes made when no one is listening but for the most part she is a good kid and she is mine. I'd like to think we have been making some progress with her though this bully is not the progress I want her to make because I don't think any child should be made to feel unsafe in their school. But they are working to prevent it so we shall see. Luckly Mini hasn't really mentioned her boyfriend, if she has one, and I will just keep listening to her stories.
So as Mini's world goes round I give you this as a final thought. Parent's no matter how mundane or unimportant it may seem listen to your kids. Sometimes you learn important things in the small funny stories that they tell. Sometimes you just make them smile by being there and allowing them to speak their mind. It's a small thing, having a playground boyfriend but to it could mean a big thing later on in her life knowing that I took the time to listen.
I know I said I would have something about me in here but I think by just having today's post about Mini I've gotten my me time in....Later Days
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