The Secret of Bullies

Mini's school was talking about bullies last month and earlier this month and I began to thank about the past and the word bully. First off I want to say that I believe that everyone has been bullied in their life time. In fact, if you really thought about it you may realize that you were at one time a bully. It doesn't take much.
Yes there are those rare people who have never said or thought a bad thing about anyone but for the majority of us we could be accused of bullying at one time or another. Sure we tell ourselves that it's a gossip thing but in reality we are still being bullies because we are responcible for someone's feeling. It's not right and does need to be stopped but on the other hand it's hard to stop something that has been left alone for so long. I bring up the gossip part of bullying because of the recent cyber bullies. First off they are cowards who have to hide behind a keyboard in order to make someone feel bad. Again on the flip side many people are easier to get at due to the internet. Teenagers have used myspace and now have begun to use facebook as way to torment someone they do not like.
The parents either don't know or do not care that their child is spending so much time online "socializing" and do not realize the real impact of this on their child. Don't get me wrong, I love the internet and the computer I see it as an outlet however I would never attack someone verbaly by this outlet. In fact even here in my blog I refuse to use real names. Mainly because the person or persons who agitate me deserve a piece of privacy.
On to bullies at school. I'll never understand the need to make some one feel low about themselves. I know that children tease and make fun of others and I am guilty of it as well but I as I think more on it by allowing children to just get away with this practice we are saying that it is ok to hurt someone's feeling. There is an ultimate secret about bullies that no one ever admits but I think I should....
Bullies have all been bullied by someone else. They prey on those that are not like them in anyway. Bullies have been around since the begining of time and though we may wish it, we can not just make them disapear. The way to stop being bullied is to talk to someone, anyone about what is going on. It's to love yourself even if you don't know who you are yet, make sure that no one else can make you question your believes or practices. Don't allow them to see you sweat. And if they result to name calling "Crybaby" stand up for that but you can't solve it by violence or harming yourself.
By doing either one you are letting them win. Though you may open some eyes to the bullying, you would open more if you were here to speak out about it. People will remember you but in the end you have done nothing but let them win. Stand up, speak up and continue to voice yourself until you feel that you are heard. Only you have the power to hurt you. And by letting bullies get to you, you are showing them that your power over yourself is weak. Bullies pray on the weak.
As I have watched Mini with one of her friends I have discovered that her friend is a bully. She tells Mini what to do, what to think and has told her that her mommy is not the boss of anyone. Folks Mini is in kindergarden. Our children learn this at an early age. So let's stop it at an early age. Let's teach our children that it is not right to make someone cry or feel bad. Let's show them that kindness is a good thing to have. It's up to us as adults to show them as children that bullying will not be tolerated.
Ok well that is my rant for the day. Hope you liked it.

I'm Sick

So I guess if you can read the title then you may already know the subject of today's post. Yep the weather is turning, Halloween's coming and you guessed it...I'm sick. This has been the longest weekend ever. And it all started at Mini's practice on Thursday. 1st off let's get a little background.
I am a type 1 diabetic, with hardly any imune system. I tend to take care of other before me but I always end up getting sick just the same. I have not taken my flu shot yet this year because I haven't really had the time and because I really hate shots. (Tattoo's are not shots and they are way different.) I mean I got out of the flu shot last year only because I had during the summer. So this year is just a time thing.
Now Thursday at Mini's practices this horrid little boys (I want to call them something else) were near us moms (no they didn't belong to any of us) and began to kick up dust and dirt. We practice at a baseball field so loose dirt is aplenty. Now after all the moms got on to the little...(fill in your own name) They were made to finally appoligize. Well so now I have dust in my system.
Friday was Mini's first field trip and we went to the zoo. Since I am mostly a stay at home mom, my job is to be room mom and helper for anyother thing she has. So Friday was already going to be long day as I woke up and felt the need of not being able to breathe. Then we get to school and I learn that I am given a second child to our small group. Total now of 3 kids and me. Not a problem, until I find out the other little girl who is with us doesn't like the new little girl with us and mini is desperate need of the other girls attention. (Yeah I'm confused too and I'm the one who just explained that.) I made it clear that we all are going to play well together then had to make it clear to Mini that she needs to befriend everyone. Thankfully both girls liked mine. So after having to express the need for harmony, and the mixture of dust and other smells I went home with a stopped up head. Cue nap there, both me and Mini took one. Later Friday night we went to the football game Mini got to cheer with the big girls and I have to say it was pretty cool.
Side note: I'm really not that big into sports and football has never held any woohoo for me.
Saturday I woke up again unable to really breathe. Ugh, really long day. But I got up and got dressed and cheered for my little mini as she cheered on the boys. We won of course and I find out that we will be going on to our playoffs. (Yes peewee has playoffs) But hubby takes me home so that I can go to bed and there I stay.
Now today, If I didn't have some school work and I didn't have to work I would still be in bed today. But as it is. We need the money and so here I am unable to keep from sniffling working in my small little corner. I need something real todo. But I still can't breath very well and I think I've taken enough meds to supply a small pharmcy and the only saving grace is that my little family has let me rest. Until I had to work. Grr. I will feel better cause I refuse to go to the dr. Well Later days peeps.